Crimes never end for crime survivors, but kind souls can help you cope.
The National Organization of Parents of Murdered Children Inc. (POMC) offers assistance in coping with the loss of a loved one to murder. POMC puts no time frame on grief, which can be a lifelong battle, though most crimes survivors take about five years to “stabilize” their lives. Marriages may break up, siblings may feel ignored, and friends may keep away because of confusion. Reach POMC at www.pomc.com.
Here are glimpses of similar such organizations:Linda and Steve Kisbee’s world fell apart when their son, Scott, was murdered. Their family and friends were supportive but eventually were exhausted and at a loss to help them pick up the pieces and get on with their lives. That is why services such as Britain’s Victim Support www.victimsupport.org.uk are so important.
Michael and Sara Payne’s marriage crumbled after pedophile Roy Whiting kidnapped and murdered their daughter, schoolgirl Sarah Payne. They had drunken brawls and began hating each other – and felt tremendous guilt for affecting their surviving children. Mr. Payne also felt guilty for having failed to protect Sarah.
Michael and Sara eventually began putting themselves – and their marriage – back together after finding Britain’s Victims of Crime Trust. They found solace with kindred spirits who’ve also lost a loved one to crime.
They regained their intimacy and, after one of the Trust's events, conceived a new baby.
Many people want to help you. There are hundreds of support groups worldwide for the bereaved loved ones of murder victims. They’re experts at coping with grief – and recovering.
Some are located in the US and some in the UK. But it doesn’t matter where you’re located. They’ll be happy to help you from the other side of the globe – and also refer you to a group near you for face-to-face counseling. They’re very willing to help you.