Safety Tips for Women:
RAPE VICTIMS' SELF-BLAME

The Self-Blame of Stranger Rape and Date Rape Victims

Unfortunately, victims of violent crimes are often so afraid of their own rage toward their perpetrators that they defend against this fury by turning it against themselves.

Think of someone you love who is physically vulnerable, such as your elderly grandmother. If she unwisely trusted someone bigger and stronger and was subsequently overpowered and sexually assaulted, would you put the blame for that act on her? Of course not! Nor can you put the blame on yourself.

Anger is resentment at being hurt. In order to heal fully you need to experience the anger toward those who hurt you, rather than directing it toward yourself.

Excerpted from The Pasadena Weekly (CA) – 05 March 2009 – by psychotherapist Patti Carmalt-Vener

In addition to therapy, what can victims of rape do to empower their recovery? In addition to therapy, victims of both stranger rape and date rape can escape the lingering effects of a foul crime by becoming survivors – thriving stronger than ever by learning rape escape options for the future. An excellent means to regain control of their lives – and to heal – is to thoroughly learn self defense. See Rape Escape Options - Survivors.

Add to Your Options
Scare off a predator by carrying a Personal Security Alarm (a.k.a. screamer or noisemaker) & Pepper Spray in plain sight.

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