Women's Safety
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Women's Safety - Recap of Dating Violence, Stalking, and Domestic Violence.

"He was not tried for the true crime. That was for the person he took away, the free spirit, the trust-everybody, the like-everybody-no-matter-what," she said. Lee Ann Breeden didn't know Randy William Beverly had been convicted of violent crimes before, even though she had researched his name on the Internet. "The average citizen doesn't know the correct places to look," she said. "I would have had to search in every individual county in every state."
Excepted from The Staunton News Leader (VA) – 25 October 2007

S.A.F.E. is being:
Skeptical of anyone trying to get near you or trying to isolate you,
Aware of danger zones and escape strategies,
Flexible: being tricky, changing strategies as needed – and if worse comes to worst:
Exploding like a mad dog to fight for your life. Stun & run. See Fighting Options.

Date-rapists, stalkers, and batterers are basically one and the same: delusional bullies imposing their “self-entitlement” on victims, and each often commits all three offenses at one time or another. (They all rate high on the Psychopath Check List explained in Predatory Mind.)

Keep your eyes wide open for the early warning signs and escape – the sooner the better. Oftentimes victims are too kind to say “NO,” or feel powerless to physically enforce their refusal.

Rape, stalking, and domestic violence survivors who’d felt utterly helpless and degraded usually have lingering emotional trauma. Even though surrender was necessary to survive, or if her best self-defense efforts fell short, she can nevertheless find the will and the means to come roaring back to life by learning martial arts. Find guidance in Choosing a Defense Class. Also see Pepper Spray & Devices.

Too often, someone else knew of ongoing battering but didn’t help. Either they didn’t know how, were afraid to get involved, or didn’t realize the danger the victim faced – until it was too late. Don't let that someone be you. Call your local rape crisis center if you suspect someone is a victim. They'll advise you how to safely help rescue a victim of harassment, stalking, battering, or rape. They very much want to help you.

For convenience, learn self-defense ONLINE for women's safety:

KRAV MAGA, a practical self-defense system used by many police forces worldwide, teaches you to defend yourself, enhances your survival instinct, and can be applied under extreme stress. It's not flashy, just very effective. I highly recommend it. The Krav Maga TV - Online Training videos are especially convenient to learn at home when your schedule allows or if you don't live near a training center.

Contacts
• Domestic Abused Women's Network (DAWN) www.dawnonline.org
• National Center for Victims of Crime www.ncvc.org
• National Coalition Against Domestic Violence www.dawnonline.org
• National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline www.loveisrespect.org
• RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) www.rainn.org

Background Checks for women's safety
Find out if someone was ever in a U.S. federal prison (assuming he’s using his real name) by calling 202-307-3126; or a state prison for a sex crime at www.fbi.gov. Or see www.CriminalSearches.com website (no fee). It also shows a map with names of anyone arrested in a specific neighborhood, and sends you e-mail alerts when someone in your life is arrested or someone with a criminal record moves in nearby. ... However, the above sources are often incomplete, and there’s no way to distinguish between people with the same name if you don’t know their birthdays (and even that date is often missing). Nevertheless, you can always hire a private detective – a simple background check usually costs $50-100.

Go to
• Women’s Safety - Overview
• Date Rape (or “Acquaintance Rape”): hidden risks, date rapist profiles, early warning signs, controlling a date, and escaping a threat.
• Stalking: stalker profiles, early warning signs, and escaping a stalker.
• Domestic Violence (or Relationship Violence): batterer's profiles, early warning signs, understanding the psycho-dynamics of both batterer and victim, and escaping.
• Recap & Resources: a summary & extensive contact list. (YOU’RE NOW ON THIS PAGE)
• Personal Security Products

For overall rape prevention strategies – both acquaintance and stranger – see Rape Escape Options and especially Ultimate Rape Prevention.

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