Rape Escape Options
Rapist Types

Rape Escape Options are either Posturing, Fleeing, Outsmarting, Surrendering, or Fighting like the most vicious dog you've ever seen.

Acquaintances of the victim commit roughly 85 percent of all rapes. Most of these are date rapists (see Date Rape), but might be any acquaintance – friend, neighbor, classmate, or co-worker. Strangers commit the other 15 percent.

Gentleman Rapists (a.k.a. Power Reassurance rapists) comprise roughly 70 percent of all rapists – and most acquaintance rapists. They capture and control a victim through verbal threats, just enough physical force to succeed, or through weapon intimidation. With fragile egos and seemingly harmless, they may suddenly become violent. They think women "play hard-to-get," don't really mean "No!" and crying is merely part of a woman’s act. Often they don't think of forced sex as rape and may actually believe you’re both simply having a good time “making love.” Afterward, he may again act kindly toward the victim as though no rape occurred.

Make it absolutely clear that you do not want sex. In a firm voice, threaten him with police and prison. If that doesn't stop him, immediately attack him with total intent to hurt him enough to allow your safe escape.

Control Freak Rapists (a.k.a. Power Assertive rapists) comprise 25 percent of all rapists – and some acquaintance rapists. They feel a "super-masculine entitlement to dominate women." They're more macho, bragging, violent, domineering, and cruel than Gentleman rapists. They, too, think women are merely their playthings.

Try to get him to see your basic human rights and feelings. Talk and talk until he relents. If that doesn't stop him, immediately attack him with total intent to hurt him enough to allow your safe rape escape.

Revenge Rapists (a.k.a. Anger Retaliatory or Danger Excitation rapists) comprise 3-5 percent of all rapists – and most stranger rapists. More violent than the first two types, they usually strike suddenly and use physical brutality and humiliation – possibly including urination or defecation on the victim. Usually sexually impotent during the attack, they seek a discharge of anger more than sexual pleasure. These attacks are usually brief – striking, assaulting, and fleeing. Immediately attack him with total intent to hurt him enough to allow your safe escape.

Sadistic Rapists comprise 1-3 percent of all rapists and are usually stranger rapists. They delight in the victim's torment and anguish. Ritualistic mutilation and murder often fulfill his fantasy. The sooner you attack him with total intent to grievously hurt him to allow your safe escape, the better. Fighting Options and Ultimate Rape Prevention help prepare your rape escape.

With a Gentleman Rapist, try very clearly explaining that you don't want any further physical intimacy. With the Control Freak Rapist, try to get him to see you as his mother or sister. See Outsmarting a Rapist in Outsmarting for more strategies. Trust your Intuition to guide you in each unique rape escape situation.

With the Revenge and Sadistic Rapists, you’re likely better off immediately fighting with absolute intent to disable him to allow your escape.

In short:
• Acquaintance rapist (85 percent of rapists): first try talking your way out. If that’s not working, suddenly explode like a mad dog and attack him. Stun & Run. See Fighting Options and Ultimate Rape Prevention.
• Stranger rapist: Suddenly explode like a mad dog and attack him. Stun & Run. See Fighting Options and Ultimate Rape Prevention.

If Posturing isn’t working, Fleeing isn't possible, and Outsmarting is falling short, you have two options left: Surrendering or Fighting. Dare you risk surrendering and putting yourself fully at the mercy of a criminal – or fighting? Only your Intuition can guide you. If you do choose to fight, then attack him as described in Fighting Options and Ultimate Rape Prevention.

Ultimately, responding to any violent rapist with an eye-gouging, throat-piercing, testicle-shredding kill-or-be-killed fight for your life may well be your best chance for survival. See Optimal Mindset.

For convenience, learn self-defense online:

KRAV MAGA, a practical self-defense system used by many police forces worldwide, teaches you to defend yourself, enhances your survival instinct, and can be applied under extreme stress. It's not flashy, just very effective. I highly recommend it. The Krav Maga TV - Online Training videos are especially convenient to learn at home when your schedule allows or if you don't live near a training center.

Rape Escape Options:
• Rape Escape Options - Overview of options you never knew you had.
• Rapist Types (YOU’RE NOW ON THIS PAGE): empowering insights into the minds of rapists.
• Rape Prevention: confronting a predator effectively.
• Ultimate Rape Prevention: options for disabling a rapist’s tool of crime for true poetic justice.
• Rape Survivors: counseling needs for rape survivors and her loved ones.
• Choosing a Self-Defense Class to prevent rape and help a rape survivor regain control of her life.
• Recap of this section.
• Fighting Options
• Pepper Spray & Devices

Also see Women’s Safety - Overview and Date Rape.

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